D igitised dating is muddying gendered norms — but it is not always a bad thing. Dating apps are helping to eradicate old rules and it is now far easier for women to orchestrate our own sexual destiny. We initiate the contact and we are in control. So why did I still find myself seriously irked after going Dutch on a recent Tinder date?
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The awkward dance begins of who will grab for that check. Will your date pay or will you? Should you go halfsies with it? These gender roles can be tough to deal with and be frustrating on your finances. So, instead of your date picking up the tab, you pay for your own share. Add money politics to the equation and things can get even more, well, awkward.
Is it wrong to resent going Dutch on a Tinder date?
The two of us are completely lost in engaging conversation over dinner. The Chilean sea bass was delicious. Things are going well. And then the check arrives. Panic ensues.
Dating culture in the western world has evolved with the political climates and moral notions of the times we have endured. Things that were considered standard practice in relationships are now considered taboo, and vice versa. With the softening of gender roles and expectations, many traditional dating practices have become obsolete and looked at as pomp and circumstance instead of grand gestures of love and appreciation.