Takeaway: This sex act can seem overwhelmingly extreme but for enthusiasts, it's about power, stretching boundaries and celebrating the body's abilities. I might have broken him. I had forgotten that, despite being fairly pervasive in the queer communities, intense penetration such as fisting can seem overwhelmingly extreme to some. That was probably the beginning of becoming The Fisting Guy in my group of straight friends; they come to me with their fisting jokes, anything they can find with a fist on it, and their questions.
Anal sex is a bit like marmite and some people think that any kind of anal play is dirty. Each to their own right? Anal play and sex can both make people feel uncomfortable. Yet fisting, both vaginally and anally does feature in porn.
Why Anal Sex Is Pleasurable For Some People — But Not Everyone
A lot of people hear the word 'fisting' and are immediately horrified. And we kind of can't blame them considering the majority of pornography depicting fisting is a teensy bit intimidating. If fisting either giving or receiving is something you're curious about though, please know it doesn't have to be as aggressive as you might see in porn - although if that's how you like it, it totally can be.
But what do you do instead? Her advice? So the idea of a woman penetrating another woman with her hand is often lost on mainstream media all together.